A lady is never rude, except intentionally.
Friday, December 18, 2015
There are so many problems in the world that we have to struggle with. From violence to natural disasters to injustice to poverty, there is an endless list of things to make life harder. Don't make yourself part of that list.
I think that one large stumbling block that so many women have to work to overcome is the tendency to try to turn themselves into men. I don't mean physically, and even mentally I think most people would not even realise that it was happening. But as human beings, we are shaped by our surroundings. And our surroundings, from every direction, scream at us that men are superior, that they are worth more, that they can do more, that being a woman is a weakness instead of a stregnth.
But that is where they are wrong. It is most definitely a stregnth. And I firmly and whole-heartedly believe that each and every woman is strong enough to fight the daily torrent of down-putting responses each and every day, we are strong enough to push past that, to look at ourselves and say, "I am me. And that's okay. In fact, that is not okay- it is great. I will keep being me."
I don't mind living in a man's world, as long as I can be a woman in it.
A very famous quote from Miz Marilyn Monroe, there is a depth here that I believe can be overlooked easily. And it is in reference to feeling comfortable in one's own skin and sexuality and femininity. To be a woman and to be okay with that. It is more than an outward show of confidence, it is an inner Zen, if you like, an understanding that you are already all you need to be, and that by being yourself, you are being spectacular.
And who is remembered as being spectular more than Miss Norma Jean herself?
Thursday, December 17, 2015
To quote the estimable Debra N. Mancoff in her book "Fashion in Impressionist Paris'" clothing provides "an articulate and accessible code of modern identity. Through their attire, men and women negotiated the complex world's of public image, proper decorum and personal relationships."
Like it or not, any impression made by you will include influence from your personal appearance. That is human nature. And not only would a lady never allow herself to be seen looking less than perfect, she would also never want to lose out on an opportunity to demonstrate her class and ladyship. Therefore, whether you are fashionably inclined or you don't know taupe from mauve really doesn't matter. What matters is that there should be a modesty and attention to detail in your dress, grooming, and hygene that will leave no one wondering whether you are a lady. "Such details would not have gone unnoticed, and in a portrait they would have represented the attributes of a respectable woman."
Monday, December 14, 2015
This video beautifully illustrates a brief visit to a ladies' finishing school in the United Kingdoms. With interesting viewpoints, rousing conversation, and an intellectual debate, this video is a must-watch for anyone who wishes to learn more.