Friday, May 22, 2015
I have heard no-one ever claim to be impressed when someone goes out of their way to show off. Good deeds, when done right, will speak for themselves, and there will be no need to raise your voice. Like the German proverb says, "Secret charity and secret patience are best."
There is an old Italian proverb which says, "It is not for the blind to give an opinion on colors." And a great man once said that opinion is the lowest form of intelligence. This is a motto that everyone should remember. Now, don't misunderstand me. Opinion is everyone's privilege, and all are entitled to theirs. However, an opinion based on anything besides solid fact, or a factual opinion biased by emotion, should be kept to oneself. Few things appear more nonsensical than an ignorant person trying to pass off their opinion as fact. Neither should you state an opinion without knowledge to back it up. Not only will this save you from embarrassing situations later, but remember that everyone has role models, and you may unknowingly lead someone astray with incorrect information.
So remember. Opinions, when factual, practical, relevant, or well-based, are fine. Otherwise, keep them to yourself.
Thursday, May 21, 2015
Thursday, May 14, 2015
The Amy Vanderbilt Complete Book of Ettiquette- A Guide to Contemporary Living, Revised and Expanded by Letitia Baldrige, by Amy Vanderbilt. ©1952.
Say it with me: Etiquette is not obsolete! For the modern lady, etiquette is an essential, and there is nowhere better to go than to the Queen of Etiquette, Ms. Amy Vanderbilt.
Introduction the the "Entertaining" section; Amy Vanderbilt, The Amy Vanderbilt Complete Book of Ettiquette- A Guide to Contemporary Living, Revised and Expanded by Letitia Baldrige
One of the most important facets in one's life is knowing how to entertain. Whether you live in a one room apartment with an annual income of $6, 500 or whether you live on an estate with an annual income of $300,000, the spirit of entertaining is the same. It is simply giving pleasure to others
It is a gift to know how to entertain well. It is also one of the most creative actions we carry out in our life. Possessing wealth does not automatically ensure being a good host, because affluence has nothing to do with a desire to please others, to be at ease with others, to be warm and welcoming.
If the host and hostess plan well in advance, even the most minute details; if they carefully compose their guest list; and if they look forward to an opportunity to please others, then the party will be a success. Weather trained staff past platters of roast pheasant, or whether the guest helps himself to a casserole of stew, it is the attitude in the home that counts, the spirit, the atmosphere of real warmth.
Above all, remember one thing: entertaine is not easy. There is no such thing as the "Party-giving is a snap" hostess. Attention to detail, a continuing awareness of how the party is progressing and how the guests are feeling, requires constant alertness. This does not mean that one should be a nervous Nelly with you about like a bird in frenetic, useless activity, but it does mean keeping an eye on all the details. It is no contradiction to say that you can work hard at your own party and still enjoyed it tremendously.
Giving a good party is a creative achievement. It is also very satisfying to know that you have given your friends pleasure.
Saturday, May 9, 2015
Burlesque and the Art of the Teese/ Fetish and the Art of the Teese, by Dita Von Teese. ©2006. This book is a lavish celebration of sensuality and showgirls. I have been a fan of Miss von Teese for a long time. With each new release, every exciting reveal, she has settled deeper into the hearts of America- men and women love her, copy her, fantasize about her, long for her, watch her, and dream of someday being on the same realm as the heavenly sinful Miss Dita.
(Her) art is creating spectacle and inspiring dreams.
I advocate glamour. Every day. Every minute. Glamour... glamour above all things. That is what I say. There was a time, after all- well, before all- when a lady dressed to the nines no matter what her destination. This great girl wore seamed stockings and garter belts every single day. She curled her eyelashes and she set her hair in luscious waves. She painter her lips a flushed, rich scarlet. Wherever the day took her, she wore high heels and satin gloves to her elbows, soaring cocque feathers and veils of the finest netting over her eyes. And so do I.
Friday, May 8, 2015
Today I was invited to a last-minute pitch-in, and was asked to bring a dish. This is a perfect example of why preparedness is so important. There were two ways I could have reacted to this situation: I could panic and worry about it, or I could be calm, because I was prepared for such a thing. Pitch-ins are popular where I live, we have them regularly, and often have to feed and entertain 70 or more people.
Having one or a few go-to dishes and games/activities at the ready definitely pays off. I brought a cheese and cracker hors d'oeuvre. It went over spectacularly, and I had no leftovers to bring home. What I count as a successful day.
Wednesday, May 6, 2015
You just know when you are in the company of a confident woman. Even (or especially) in the face of imperfections, her air is striking. Her beauty is fueled from something inside her. It's not that she doesn't care about her looks; on the contrary, she is so comfortable with who she is that she even embraces her quirks and flaws.
Saturday, May 2, 2015
And that, my dears, is what expensive makeup is all about. It as knit fades into the backround, bringing out your beauty to make you the star, not your makeup. It has that "je ne sais quoi" quality you see on models in magazines, a flow that looks like it's more than skin deep.
I believe that beauty is power. When your hair looks polished, you feel polished. When you get your skin under control, you feel more in control of your life. The right lipstick color can life your mood better than Prozac... It's not about being flashy or a show-off or a showgirl (that's a different kind of expensive). It's luxe, not loud. More Paris, France than Paris Hilton.