There is no animal more invincible than a woman, nor fire either...
Friday, February 20, 2015
Black men are pearls in beauteous ladies'eyes.
Here, in my opinion, lies a prime example of Mr. Shakespeare's deep understanding and appreciation of women. What he is saying, in effect, is that a good lady can see a man blackened by his sins, but can perceive the good in him-- even, in some cases, bring it to the foreground. This is a skill that all should strive to achieve, but remember: with great power comes great responsibility.
Wednesday, February 18, 2015
Wednesday, February 11, 2015
Seductress, Betsy Prioleau. ©2003.
A study of seductresses of the past, and how to attain their success. To quote the book, "For those, though, who'd like eros under their control, beaux at their bidding, and the upper hand in sex, the know-how is there for the taking."
If you scrape off the cultural debris - superstitions, myths, and media cant - you'll see a woman to be reckoned with. The seductress is one of the most potent female personas in existence. Though long misunderstood and ignored, she's the paradigmatic liberated woman, empowered with me and empowered in life.
Tuesday, February 10, 2015
By her example she ingrained in us girls one of our most valued Southern traditions: your elders deserve respect, period. No ifs, ands, or buts.
So I just spent this morning in a tightly-packed sedan with a group of women who spent the better part of four hours talking down to me, not including me in their plans, laughing at me, and making me, in general, dislike them and myself. So, a note. Firstly, please notice that I did not refer to these people as ladies. Their conduct was abhorrent. Secondarily, whether I am "beneath" them or not is of no matter: no-one should be treated that way. Thirdly, people don't forget when this is done to them. They may keep quiet, miserable and hateful, but if they had a chance, many people would find it difficult to pass on an opportunity to repay the treatment. And finally. These harsh words were from people I knew well, among them my sister, a girl I grew up with, and a more recent friend. It is difficult to keep from believing these people when they seem to want you to feel like baggage. But there are a few adages I like to keep in mind for such situations:
You are not considered a good person by how you treat your superiors. You are considered to be a good person by how you treat those beneath you.
Do to others what you would like to be done to you, if the situation were reversed.
Do not let the circumstances surrounding you define how you act: a lady proves she is a lady when she acts properly despite intervening circumstances.
And, finally, to quote Shakespeare: "all the glitters is not gold."
Monday, February 9, 2015
Live Like a Hot Chick, by Jodi Lipper and Cerina Vincent. ©2010.
The opening chapter of this book is an inspiration. As soon as I had read it-devoured it, more like-I immediately went online and bought a copy for my best friend. This book is stock-full of advice, epigrams, sass, and style, managing to make you love yourself even on the days when you don't change out of your sweats, and eat ice cream out of the tub. We all have those Low Self Esteem moments and, for most of us, it feels like our entire life is that moment. This book looks at you and says, hey. So what? Get over it!
When a train heads straight at you, a smart girl derails it.
A lady shouldn't have to fight to get what she wants.
What men call logic is all too often a convoluted rationalization in the service of their egos neuroses, and prejudices... Knowing this, a smart woman deals with male "logic" from the vantage point of quiet superiority.
A smart girl lets a man take full credit for doing exactly what she wants him to do.
A Southern Belle picks her fights... There are so many other ways to get what you want
Sissy wasn't really beautiful, but men never noticed. With her deep green eyes, her shoulder- length auburn hair that swung when she moved, and the way she moved as if she enjoyed just being inside her body, men had always paid her lots of attention. But then, Sissy thought, it's not what a girl looks like that captivates a man. It's how hard he has to work for her. A smart girl makes a man sweat. She decided to make that rule number 16 in The Southern Belle's Handbook, which was what Sissy had ironically titled that compendium of helpful hints and rules her mother and grandmother tried so hard to instill in her. Her mother had wanted her to grow up a gracious southern lady. Her grandmother just didn't want the (jerks) to grind her down. Sissy had added to it over the years, until The Southern Belle's Handbook became her personal credo. She kept it in her head, assigning numbers at random, but then Sissy always had a random relationship with numbers.
It is traditionally believed that Cleopatra dazzled Caesar with her great beauty. Instead, it was the power of her intelligence and personality that drew him to her. According to Plutarch, "the charm of her presence was irresistible, and there was an attraction in her person and her talk, together with a peculiar force of character which pervaded her every word and action, and laid all who associated with her under its spell. "
Saturday, February 7, 2015
The classy woman, through her language, attempts to make those around her feel comfortable, respected, and at ease and she treats everyone, regardless of their appearance, social class, and educational level, with the same amount of respect and graciousness.
Good men who are intelligent, kindhearted, of good character, and know how to treat a woman well are desirable, to say the least, and have the pick of the women in the world. You can be sure that they're looking out for a certain kind of creature and know their ideal mate.
Friday, February 6, 2015
Thursday, February 5, 2015
Everyday you spend hating your body is a day that you are not living like a hot chick. Your time and energy should be spent on accomplishing your dreams and enjoying your life, not making yourself feel worthless and wallowing in self-pity. It's time to put an end to your negative, insecure thoughts and genuinely embrace the body that you have.
Monday, February 2, 2015
Secondarily, I have had "friends" before who spent all their time talking bad about their other "friends." Which means, by process of common sense and an understanding of human nature, that they were talking about me when I wasn't there. If you stick around when people start to talk, be prepared for the fallout. Stick up for the underdog, and people will notice. Not only will they stop gossiping around you, but you will give them one less thing to talk about when you turn your back.
So don't be an everyday person. Be spectacular. Have the courage to stand above everyone else, because you don't want their dirt smothering your shine.